2/10/2015

Top Ten Tuesday || Likes & Dislikes When It Comes To Romances In Books

Top Ten Tuesday is a weekly meme/feature hosted by The Broke and The Bookish. This week it's all about love and romance. At first I had a hard time thinking about what I even wanted to write down, but after a bit it wasn't so difficult to get down anyway.

Likes:
Flawed couples - Both couples and characters. People are not perfect, and relationships aren't either. It's not all rainbows and butterflies (yay for Maroon 5 reference), and perfect couples are boring to be quite honest.

Slow Burn romance - A slow build-up can be amazing. The kind where you can see feelings evolve and turn into something so strong is incredible. It can be frustrating, yes, but somehow when everything works out in the end it is so satisfying.

Couples who can give each other something - I love it when there isn't just one person in the relationship who takes care of everything and takes every decision. I love a relationship where they each bring something to the table, and they can complement each other in that way.

Banter - Banter can be really fun - witty banter between couples can be fun and some times it can also be flirty banter. However, it can be too much. I do enjoy banter, but if every conversation the couple has consist of banter, it gets to be way too much for me.

Childhood friends to lovers - I'm a sucker for this kind of romance, all though I haven't really read many books with this kind of romance. I do have a couple of books waiting for me with just that kind of couples, and I can't wait to get to them.


Dislikes:

No talk what so ever about condoms or contraception - This is something I mostly see in New Adult books and it really bothers me. It's not that I want long paragraphs about this, but the just acknowledgement that they are things to consider before having sex.

No communication - Couples who don't talk to each other about the things that are bothering them are so incredibly frustrating. These are instances where one or both parts of the couple don't talk about problems at all. They don't talk to each other, and expect the other to just know what's wrong. I can't stand it.

Instalove - Now, I think this is a thing that bothers a lot of people, and I'm one of those people. As I mentioned in my likes, I like a slow born romance, and when a relationship has time to develop. I don't mind the insta-attraction, that's a totally normal thing, but the instalove, most of the time, just seem so unrealistic, and it's honestly getting boring.

The girl needs to be saved - This is something that is so overdone, and so incredibly unnecessary. I have never understood the concept of "girl is not complete before the boy comes into her life". Also, it isn't really realistic.

"I'm gonna have sex with you even though you are sleeping and we only met yesterday and have not discussed this what so ever!" - Again this is something I see more and more in New Adult books. This is usually the guy who thinks that it's okay to do this, and spoiler alert, it's not. She is sleeping, and can therefore not consent to the sex, which makes this sexual assault. I've seen this being passed off as completely normal and okay in a couple of New Adult books, and that's not okay!

So those are my likes and dislike when it comes to romance in books. The thing I wanna know is, what are your likes and dislikes in romance?

5 comments:

  1. Lovely list! We have a lot of likes and dislikes in romances in common so when I saw this I saw like "you just get me!";) I love couples which consist of two people who are quirky, flawed and loving:) I live for banter- I wish I was as witty as characters can be! No communication really bothers me too because a good couple trust each other and stick with each other through their ups and downs and mistakes.
    Here's mine:) : http://anotheronceuponatime.blogspot.sg/2015/02/top-ten-tuesday-romance.html

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    1. Thank you! I know how you feel - if only I could throw banter like some people in books, I would be so happy. And yes, you are so right about the trust thing! A lot of the time, it seems that the no communication comes from that lack of trust!

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  2. Also just wanted to say that I think it's really cool and admirable that you want to become a teacher! An English Literature teacher?:)

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    1. Aw, thank you! Not english literature no. I'm getting an education to be a Danish, English, and (hopefully) art teacher on elementary school level.

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  3. I don't like it when no one talks about condoms or contraceptives either! Here's my link to my TTT for this week: http://captivatedreader.blogspot.com/2015/02/top-ten-tuesday-top-ten-things-i.html

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